Lonesome

We've been away from many of our closer friends. And it shows. We're making their foods, watching their movies, saying their catch phrases - we've been influenced by so many of you for the better (and sometimes for worse, or that's how it feels because we miss you so much). It always takes time no matter where you settle in to make new friends and get to know people. We agreed in Bible college that relationships are so intensified because you share so much of your lives together: eating at the same tables, sleeping in the same dorms (sometimes same rooms), playing on the same music, sports, or drama teams, and sharing so many fun experiences together. Budda boom budda bing! Bridal school and lifelong friendships.

I didn't expect Seminary to be the same. People coming in from all over for a few weeks at a time and the few who live on campus. And yesterday we said, "I wonder what Brian and Janice are making us for lunch," and seriously considered driving the 8 hours to our house in Caronport to see them. I keep thinking that Neil will drop by my office door and offer some form of encouragement. I wondered whether Paul Magnus would like to see this book and enjoy our Sunday School class on conflict. I think about the interesting discussion Tony might have over women in ministry with the bylaw committee. And of course Terry's critique of the last message was ringing in my ears. I watched a movie with our young adults and wondered how Tim and Jon would have rated and hated it. Working out a worship set I wondered what Clay and Bill would have added here or there and how Jason would have transformed it. Or when five of my youth group girls filmed themselves dancing to "White and Nerdy" and all I could think of was Brian Westnedge. And I laughed and cried at the same time. Brian could have fit into every one of the previous things I mentioned, but white and nerdy the most.

Oh how I miss you and more! I'm sure Faith's list would be similar, only including more women and less men, mostly adhered to many of the same people and others. You are truly amazing friends. It's no wonder we miss you. Sorry I don't call more often. I keep getting told that it's a guy thing, but I need you guys in my life...

- Mark